Due to the sports festival, there was a lot of rush of children and their parents in the field, interesting sports competitions were going on among the children and a break was announced for the purpose of relaxation.
During this time a program of poems and songs was started to keep the children active and the children were invited to come and sing their favorite poems or songs. However, due to the presence of hundreds of families, the children were afraid to start. Fariah, 6, looked at her mother, Abu, and, smiling enthusiastically, approached the host to pick up the mic, which was inviting the children to poems or songs.
Fariah confidently and in a very good voice started reciting the poem ‘Tamana Meri’ in front of hundreds of people. Completed and she became the cause of reading poems and songs for other children as well.
Self-confidence is actually a basic motivator for children, helping them to move forward at different times in life, to face difficulties and to set an example for others.
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What is self-esteem?
There is a lot of talk about self-confidence, but it is rarely discussed, especially in the context of children, ignoring its meaning and significance.
Self-confidence means ‘personal impression’, meaning ‘what we think and feel about ourselves’. It is this thought and feeling that gives a person confidence in himself or inferiority complex.
As children get older, they begin to form opinions about themselves from the words and attitudes of others. Importantly, the words and attitudes of parents are most effective in forming children’s opinions.
Whether the baby is on its lap, on its knees or on the verge of adolescence, emotions such as love and affection are the most important pillars for building self-confidence, it is up to you to give your child self-confidence. How to help create important traits or make them a person with a sense of inferiority.
How to recognize self-esteem?
Children’s reactions to different situations and events can indicate whether or not children have self-confidence.
Signs of low self-esteem
Avoiding new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
Don’t trust your abilities
Unnecessarily being influenced by others
Get upset quickly
Being defensive and afraid of criticism
Repeatedly changing your appearance
Avoiding social activities
Signs of better self-confidence
Welcome new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
Be satisfied with your abilities and tasks
Learning from mistakes
Accepting positive criticism
Be confident in your outfit
How does self-esteem affect children?
Self-confidence helps children in a variety of contexts and spheres, such as children’s behavior, their personal energy, and their peers’ coping with stress, as well as their learning, personal and It is also important for physical development and creativity.
In addition, setting goals, reaching them, making decisions and solving problems is not possible without self-confidence.
How can parents instill self-confidence in their children?
The first step towards self-confidence is to create a loving and caring environment, through which the foundation can be laid to improve the child’s ‘personal impression’, for which the following 4 important things need to be done.
1- Relationship full respect
Self-confidence is actually the name of self-respect and personal value. The most important thing you can do as a parent is to respect yourself, your spouse and your child. Will learn
Also show genuine interest in the child, such as asking the child for an opinion on various issues at home, respecting his opinion, even if it is against you.
Respect your child’s choices, opinions and personal belongings, give them two or more options instead of imposing your will on them, as well as giving children negative nicknames, rejections and living their own lives. Keep the ‘behavior’ to a minimum.
Connect children with their positive family traditions so that they can feel strong and proud, remember that recognizing and respecting children’s individuality will also teach them to respect the preferences of others.
2- Communication or communication
A good relationship is essential for self-confidence and communication is a basic requirement for a good relationship.
Really listen to your children because children are not stupid and when you are pretending to listen they understand, children will be able to talk to their parents only when children are confident in giving their opinion. shall be.
Communicate home rules and regulations to your children in appropriate words and accents and communicate them to your children through your actions.
3- Expression of love and affection
Expressing love and affection for children, whether in a series of words or in a hug, nod, or any other physical way, is essential for children’s self-confidence.
It is important to spend time with the children, whether it is for 15 or 20 minutes every day, focusing on the children’s issues and events instead of your own.
Avoid conditions with expressions of love, express love with your behavior and words even when they are not obeying you.
4 – Encouragement
Praise words and behaviors are a relatively complex process, sometimes parents make the child emotionally sensitive by over-praising, the key principle of praise and encouragement is to do it when you really want to. Do it when the child needs it.
With this condition the child is less encouraged and praised, let the child know how happy you are with his or her accomplishments, give feedback on the child’s unique abilities and qualities.
Praise them for doing small chores around the house and avoid negative comments when they aren’t.
Don’t compare children with other peers, siblings, etc. It is an indication that they can never be as good as them.
Remember that it is not easy to instill self-confidence in children, however parents will be able to build self-confidence in their children slowly but surely with their behavior and the above measures and tools.